Our generation’s hook-up culture have made our life lot more confusing and definitely a mess. I am not against the idea of it but I feel that a lot of people sleep around to bury other issues they may be having in their lives.
Now a days it can be very difficult to figure out if a guy or girl is actually interested in you or is simply trying to release some stress.
Yes, he or she asked you to go out for some food and drinks, but then didn’t consider it to be “official” — whatever that means. “It’s not a date… we’re just hanging out (and then hopefully going to be having sex a bit later).”
There is no longer any standard that tells the exact time anybody should wait to have sex.
It used to be three dates. Before that, it was probably three months. And now three hours will do it if you can manage to pull it off. But is it acceptable? Depends who you ask.
There’s a lot of difference between the three things and that’s seeing each other, dating and just hanging out.
Unfortunately, no one seems to have a clear idea on what that difference is. This gets incredibly frustrating when you find someone you really like and find that you’re having trouble labeling the relationship with them.
No one wants to label relationships anymore just to avoid commitment. People don’t want to feel stuck. They don’t want to feel as if they have obligations or responsibilities to another person. We all want to be free souls.
Also because of this we feel left out sometimes.
If you hooked up with someone, and you guys clearly aren’t going to continue hooking up, is it okay to ask out his or her friend?
If a hookup was just a hookup and nothing more, then as long as both parties aren’t interested in seeing each other again, both should be able to ask out whomever they want — regardless of that person’s relationship to the person he or she already slept with.
Nevertheless, we often decide it’s unacceptable — which is funny considering how many random people the average Millennial sleeps with. Soon enough, no one will be able to date anyone, as everyone will have a friend or a friend of a friend who slept with that person.
If you both just want sex, do you have to do the whole dinner thing?
I don’t believe you need to. If you just want to have sex, then just have sex. Why pretend that it’s more than it actually is?
If you’re worried that the other person may want something more than just sex then you should probably have a conversation about where things stand anyhow.
“I know that I sleep around, but I’m a guy. She’s a woman. It’s not okay for her to do the same!”
Such thinking of men is the most confusing part as such double standards shouldn’t come in the way at-least in 21st century.
“I could never be with a person that slept with so many other people…”
Welcome to our generation’s hook-up culture. Most of us have slept with more people than we’re willing to admit. My question is this: Who the hell cares? Does sleeping with a lot of people make you a bad person? A confused person? A lost person? A slut or manwhore?
No. All it means is that you’re probably good looking, sexually hungry, and good in bed. I don’t know about you, but those seem like qualities everyone wants in a partner. Remember, no matter what your relationship with a person, you don’t own them. If anything, the experience ought to be humbling.